Thank you Essem . The sad thing is that he did have some wonderful qualities as a husband , otherwise i would never have tried so hard to stay married. But he just seemed to be scouting for my replacement quite often, i guess a younger woman. One of the things he said to me as he left was ' sometimes i am really happy with you' .....He's moved on with such speed with no conscience or guilt , from photos on facebook he clearly started seeing this fiancee within a month or two of leaving me for the last time last August and he's already asked her to marry him. It makes you wonder if she knows anything at all or knows it all and just doesnt care about the estranged wife. I have spoken to a divorce advisor today and it looks as if divorcing him in the UK will be difficult because it is too late to claim adultery or unreasonable behaviour because he left a year ago, yet we have not been separated for the 2 years required for desertion. The only reason i have left it is because i believed he was sorting it! I feel so desolate because he has won on every level. And he's happy yet i cannot even think about dating stil - how on earth do i trust someone else !Hi Misha,
Your sad story is all too typical of what we are hearing on here these days and thank you for sharing it with us. We're always here to listen and support you any which way we can.
Your ex sounds like a typical narcissistic type, you and others being mere objects to him. He'll never learn to make it on his own, have an envy of others who have what he lacks, and is basically empty on the inside. He has no real Self to bring to a relationship with another person, but he desperately needs someone else to join him in his emptiness and help him maintain emotional equilibrium. His ideal partner is someone willing to become an extension of his fragile ego, to serve as an object of admiration, contempt, or often enough both. You might not think so now, but you are well rid, he'd only have drained you further both financially and, more so, emotionally. It's not easy when you've invested so much love, time and money in someone to see them walk away with apparently not a thought or a care in the world about you. It's hard and it hurts and it will take you time to recover. But you will.
Put in down to experience, something you have learned from and try not to look back.
He'll never find true happiness and will use everyone that he meets to get what he wants.
The sign over the Airports in Tunisia ought to read: Abandon Self All Ye Who Enter Here.