I'm a little confused, are all Tunisian guys confusing? Anybody?

Reba1986

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#41
They are parasites and will latch onto anyone, saw some disgusting sights there recently grandmother and grandson aged "relationships" and young men.with old men tourists, starting to dislike the country very much everyone out to badly rip off the tourists and hassle them to death
 

Trulymadlydeeply

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#42
Jules no offence but I think you are in "love" with the whole package.. Sun, sea, charm and full on attention. You do not know each other you met for 14 days how much time out of that did you spend together? How can he have your heart? How old is he? What are you falling out over?
 

Milk

Well-Known Member
#43
Answer yourself one question.. In the UK would you put up with men who treat you as he is treating you? If not then why put up with it for someone who may take you for your money and/or visa?
 

Jules

Member
#44
Wow that's a change in temperature.

Aaaww a 4 year old always knows best.

I'm going to put him on the spot today and see how he reacts. I'm going to let him know I'm not an easy ride.

As much as I like him I can't put my self through this as it will make me ill in the long run.

As I told you he's very moody so he'll probably flip out.

Do you think I should mention the word 'Bezness' or not?
 

Jules

Member
#45
Jules no offence but I think you are in "love" with the whole package.. Sun, sea, charm and full on attention. You do not know each other you met for 14 days how much time out of that did you spend together? How can he have your heart? How old is he? What are you falling out over?
We spent at least 12 hours a day together the whole time I was there.

Unfortunately I wear my heart on my sleeve.

He falls out with me for literally anything, never anything in particular then 15 mins later it's forgotten
 

Jules

Member
#46
Answer yourself one question.. In the UK would you put up with men who treat you as he is treating you? If not then why put up with it for someone who may take you for your money and/or visa?
No I probably wouldn't.

I have no intention of giving him money, if I go back in March as planned I will rat him out if that's the case.
 

Jules

Member
#47
They are parasites and will latch onto anyone, saw some disgusting sights there recently grandmother and grandson aged "relationships" and young men.with old men tourists, starting to dislike the country very much everyone out to badly rip off the tourists and hassle them to death
I didn't see that but I'm starting to see from this thread.
 

Trulymadlydeeply

Well-Known Member
#48
I have met some lovely animators over the years. First day in the hotel they come over one by one each finding out something different about you. Then one will come with the usual lines I like to go along with it ;) then comes the sob story!!! I then say do you know how many times I've heard this I have been married to a Tunisian. They apologise and then I get treated very well for my stay!!! Of course not all are the same, but even if they are not when they begin the job it's not long before they cotton on.
 

kassie

Well-Known Member
#49
We spent at least 12 hours a day together the whole time I was there.

Unfortunately I wear my heart on my sleeve.

He falls out with me for literally anything, never anything in particular then 15 mins later it's forgotten
Hmmmm....seems like deja vu! Just keep your wits about you! x
 

kassie

Well-Known Member
#50
I didn't see that but I'm starting to see from this thread.
People here are only trying to help you be aware....and mostly from "experience"
 

janette

Well-Known Member
#51
I have met some lovely animators over the years. First day in the hotel they come over one by one each finding out something different about you. Then one will come with the usual lines I like to go along with it ;) then comes the sob story!!! I then say do you know how many times I've heard this I have been married to a Tunisian. They apologise and then I get treated very well for my stay!!! Of course not all are the same, but even if they are not when they begin the job it's not long before they cotton on.
This is very true - a few years ago a new animation lad arrived at our hotel. He really was lovely - quite an innocent and asked my husband why I never spoke to the animation staff and he told him to ask me - which he did. I was totally honest with him and explained that having lived in the hotel for 6 years total, I had seen far too much to want to even be in the same room as them and certainly would never socialise. I explained that of course there was the odd good one --- but they were few and far between and I really couldn't be bothered. He said that he knew a few bad stories - he'd heard then whilst training - but he would never be like that. I told him that he would!! For the next month or so he drove me mad with his requests for English lessons and yes, he was serious and spent hours studying what he'd written and yes, his English improved in leaps and bounds and I had to admire him for that. Thankfully the hotel started to get busy, so pressure off of me and we watched him working. A couple of months later we came back to Uk to escape the heat and returned in Autumn as usual. He was still there and goodness me he had clearly been studying hard, but not the previous English lessons! One day, he saw me looking at him and came over very shamefaced. No words were necessary really, but he explained that he really did want to be one of the good ones, but after a short time realised that he could change his life if he took advantage of the things (people) on offer. I just looked and said nothing and he explained that he would not try to speak with me again as i made him feel so ashamed. We never spoke again. Sad really. :(
 

Scottochott

Well-Known Member
#52
This is very true - a few years ago a new animation lad arrived at our hotel. He really was lovely - quite an innocent and asked my husband why I never spoke to the animation staff and he told him to ask me - which he did. I was totally honest with him and explained that having lived in the hotel for 6 years total, I had seen far too much to want to even be in the same room as them and certainly would never socialise. I explained that of course there was the odd good one --- but they were few and far between and I really couldn't be bothered. He said that he knew a few bad stories - he'd heard then whilst training - but he would never be like that. I told him that he would!! For the next month or so he drove me mad with his requests for English lessons and yes, he was serious and spent hours studying what he'd written and yes, his English improved in leaps and bounds and I had to admire him for that. Thankfully the hotel started to get busy, so pressure off of me and we watched him working. A couple of months later we came back to Uk to escape the heat and returned in Autumn as usual. He was still there and goodness me he had clearly been studying hard, but not the previous English lessons! One day, he saw me looking at him and came over very shamefaced. No words were necessary really, but he explained that he really did want to be one of the good ones, but after a short time realised that he could change his life if he took advantage of the things (people) on offer. I just looked and said nothing and he explained that he would not try to speak with me again as i made him feel so ashamed. We never spoke again. Sad really. :(
Very sad but we all know the truth of it unfortunately. What is the attitude of the older staff and management though?
 

janette

Well-Known Member
#53
Very sad but we all know the truth of it unfortunately. What is the attitude of the older staff and management though?
From what I have observed they are all as bad as each other. I have seen directors, head of reception, maitre 'de, etc etc acting just as bad as the rest. On several occasions have seen staff ''dismissed'' after a serious complaint from a guest, only to return as soon as they have gone. In one particular case, Jamel the receptionist had had to my knowledge 4 serious cases of sexual misconduct towards guests reported by reps. (Not as bad a s rape, but serious enough) After the latest complaint, where he has repeatedly tried to use the passkey to enter a single female's room, he was 'dismissed' - I was absolutely livid to see him appear yet again - literally the day after the guest had left. Obviously , I know all the staff very well and I immediately went to see the director and told him that if I ever saw or heard that the chap was back in the hotel again, I would report him to Vincci H.O. and post the facts on ever FB page connected to tourism. He was dismissed, but --- 2 years late the director moved to another hotel and guess who he took as head of reception????? Disgusting lot!
 

Scottochott

Well-Known Member
#54
I hope all the new members embarking on their new relationships are taking note!
 

Jules

Member
#55
I have met some lovely animators over the years. First day in the hotel they come over one by one each finding out something different about you. Then one will come with the usual lines I like to go along with it ;) then comes the sob story!!! I then say do you know how many times I've heard this I have been married to a Tunisian. They apologise and then I get treated very well for my stay!!! Of course not all are the same, but even if they are not when they begin the job it's not long before they cotton on.
It's so sad :(

I haven't had any sob stories yet. I suppose there to come are they?
 

Jules

Member
#57
People here are only trying to help you be aware....and mostly from "experience"
I know and I'm very appreciative of the comments even if they are harsh.

I feel upset for the guys that feel the need to do what there doing, its crazy.
 

Jules

Member
#58
This is very true - a few years ago a new animation lad arrived at our hotel. He really was lovely - quite an innocent and asked my husband why I never spoke to the animation staff and he told him to ask me - which he did. I was totally honest with him and explained that having lived in the hotel for 6 years total, I had seen far too much to want to even be in the same room as them and certainly would never socialise. I explained that of course there was the odd good one --- but they were few and far between and I really couldn't be bothered. He said that he knew a few bad stories - he'd heard then whilst training - but he would never be like that. I told him that he would!! For the next month or so he drove me mad with his requests for English lessons and yes, he was serious and spent hours studying what he'd written and yes, his English improved in leaps and bounds and I had to admire him for that. Thankfully the hotel started to get busy, so pressure off of me and we watched him working. A couple of months later we came back to Uk to escape the heat and returned in Autumn as usual. He was still there and goodness me he had clearly been studying hard, but not the previous English lessons! One day, he saw me looking at him and came over very shamefaced. No words were necessary really, but he explained that he really did want to be one of the good ones, but after a short time realised that he could change his life if he took advantage of the things (people) on offer. I just looked and said nothing and he explained that he would not try to speak with me again as i made him feel so ashamed. We never spoke again. Sad really. :(
That is really sad :(

The woman giving them gifts/money for something in return are no better. There are some gullible people out there which are victims of the tunisian guys I know that.

That's no way of life for these guys, I know I shouldn't feel sorry for them. There country has forced them to behave badly.

I haven't been asked for money yet and he skypes every other day. I will obviously say no if he does though.

This whole experience has upset me, I don't know what to do for the best. Stay in touch and just see what happens? I don't know!
 

Jules

Member
#59
From what I have observed they are all as bad as each other. I have seen directors, head of reception, maitre 'de, etc etc acting just as bad as the rest. On several occasions have seen staff ''dismissed'' after a serious complaint from a guest, only to return as soon as they have gone. In one particular case, Jamel the receptionist had had to my knowledge 4 serious cases of sexual misconduct towards guests reported by reps. (Not as bad a s rape, but serious enough) After the latest complaint, where he has repeatedly tried to use the passkey to enter a single female's room, he was 'dismissed' - I was absolutely livid to see him appear yet again - literally the day after the guest had left. Obviously , I know all the staff very well and I immediately went to see the director and told him that if I ever saw or heard that the chap was back in the hotel again, I would report him to Vincci H.O. and post the facts on ever FB page connected to tourism. He was dismissed, but --- 2 years late the director moved to another hotel and guess who he took as head of reception????? Disgusting lot!
Really? That is awful!

I love Tunisia but these stories are pretty scarey, When I go back I won't talk to anyone at this rate :/
 

janette

Well-Known Member
#60
That is really sad :(

The woman giving them gifts/money for something in return are no better. There are some gullible people out there which are victims of the tunisian guys I know that.

That's no way of life for these guys, I know I shouldn't feel sorry for them. There country has forced them to behave badly.

I haven't been asked for money yet and he skypes every other day. I will obviously say no if he does though.

This whole experience has upset me, I don't know what to do for the best. Stay in touch and just see what happens? I don't know!
Jules, you really would not be feeling sorry for them if you had seen the heartache and destruction that they have caused decent loving ladies --- and a couple of heartbroken man. Never underestimate the damage that is done!!!
 
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