Older women married to younger Tunisian men

Essem

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my husband has now been in the UK for 2 and half years now... ive never noticed anyone look at us both and think that i was old enough to be his mother..........on friday we were out together drinking and this woman started talking to me. she then said "is this your Son".......i could have sank into the smallest hole possible. my husband told her "NO" this is my wife. there is 20years difference, i am now very consious of been seen together:(
What was her reply to your hb Lynne?

Did she seem embarrassed at what she said?
 

maynardlynne

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What was her reply to your hb Lynne?

Did she seem embarrassed at what she said?
she looked gob smacked, then apologised and walked away to join her daughter:)
 

Jane BM

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she looked gob smacked, then apologised and walked away to join her daughter:)
You should have asked her if she was meeting her granddaughter!!! Lol
 

lynn

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some people are so ignorant, not been asked anything like that yet lmao and if I do they will get a slap ;)
 

Trulymadlydeeply

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Don't think it's ignorance some people just "say what they see" she probably thought it was start up a conversation? You should take it as a compliment she must think youre a right cougar. :) :)
 

Jasmine

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some people are so ignorant, not been asked anything like that yet lmao and if I do they will get a slap ;)
Not to your face! I bet they are whispering behind your back though ;)
 

missmetal

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Well it is an honest mistake...her reaction is poo but you dont think older man/women with a younger man/women are married automatically. You think parent and child if the one looks older than the other.

No disrespect to you MaynardLynne, you dont look old enough to have a grown up kid from ya pic :), but sadly we are getting older and the age difference will become more apparent if its a big age gap. Im 13yrs difference with my hubby and even though a lot of people think im in my late 20's early 30's, I wont get away with that for much longer....maybe another 5yrs...but Im sure as soon as I have kids, no sleep and all that...I will probably start to show my age really quickly...and hubby will be a hot 30 something and I will be mid 40's :-/ Surgery...here I come :)
 

lynn

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Not to your face! I bet they are whispering behind your back though ;)
to be honest I think we look more or less the same age :)
 
Hello there

I know there are many women like me, who have married younger Tunisian men, but where are you? are any of you reading this forum? How are you managing the cultural and age differences?
i will marry a younger Tunisian Man soon
 
hi im sylvia. married to slim, 4yr now and still ok, we have been in england 2yr july we need to get visa again so we can be together perminent.thay dont make things easy do thay.you have the stress of trying for set visa,then refusal,then appeal, we won ,some dont,my friend is still trying ,and she went for the easy irish visa,plus im not rich, if you have money its not so hard going,but i had to put away every penny,slim waswaiting on at a hotel and got just about his rent and food money,so a visa to england at £300 took ages to save.on top u have flights if i was to see him,it was hard,he was refused ,we won appeal, but that draged on for 1yr, he tryfor work,as the job he was offerd went as it took so long for him to get the appeal,no jobs in manchester so my friend said come to gatwick lots of work, she gave slim a room,he got jobs with an agancy i packed up and joined him,we now have a flat privet rented as slim cant get any public funds for 2 yr. so i have to keep him iff he dont have work,so the council take council tax but we cant get house .thay give all to e u persons that can walk in the country get help as soon as thay arive. we had to fight from day one ,now we are saveing the 1000 for the visa to stay . we are together and happy slim is 28 i am 60. we dont worry about age . what is age ? its the stress of life that makes problems .and the immigration people dont help
Thank you for you story, it help me lots, I will marry a Tunisian Man soon, he is 21 and I am 43.
 

Jane BM

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i will marry a younger Tunisian Man soon
Hi Onelove and welcome to the forum.. Congratulations on your future wedding. Have you been with your boyfriend long? Are you from the UK? What are your future plans together...
 

Milk

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Well it is an honest mistake...her reaction is poo but you dont think older man/women with a younger man/women are married automatically. You think parent and child if the one looks older than the other.

No disrespect to you MaynardLynne, you dont look old enough to have a grown up kid from ya pic :), but sadly we are getting older and the age difference will become more apparent if its a big age gap. Im 13yrs difference with my hubby and even though a lot of people think im in my late 20's early 30's, I wont get away with that for much longer....maybe another 5yrs...but Im sure as soon as I have kids, no sleep and all that...I will probably start to show my age really quickly...and hubby will be a hot 30 something and I will be mid 40's :-/ Surgery...here I come :)
I'm thinking your in your early 40..you don't have to answer that. I was just curious why you decided to have children. I'm not sure if you have any now so this is why I'm asking. Women in the 40 usually don't want any more. I don't when it comes down to it, mind you, I have older and younger children so been parenting for a long time. I do have this instinct that wants another one. Maybe you can give me more insight
 

Jane BM

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I'm thinking your in your early 40..you don't have to answer that. I was just curious why you decided to have children. I'm not sure if you have any now so this is why I'm asking. Women in the 40 usually don't want any more. I don't when it comes down to it, mind you, I have older and younger children so been parenting for a long time. I do have this instinct that wants another one. Maybe you can give me more insight
Well I'm in my 40's married to someone younger and my son is 22. Never considered having more children when I was in my 30's however in my 40's the thought has crossed my mind a few times. Kinda depends what kind of day I'm having. Wouldn't be devastated if I did, equally wouldn't be devastated if I didn't. Biggest issue for me would be combining a baby with working for myself, which isn't something I could afford to give up....however, I'm sure MIL would love a visitors visa to come help for the initial period...lol.
 

gabriel612

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I am older than my husband, as of yet no one has said anything to us nor have I noticed anyone staring. New year we were out and hubbies eyes were out on organ stops, I have never seen his eyes stray before so was surprised and I was feeling the green monster rising but I said nothing. Hubby turned to me and asked if the police tell these naked women to go home and put clothes on lol, he said they would be arrested in Tunisia or escorted home:). He could not understand these little shorts or knickers they wear, my only worry was that they would freeze to death. He then asked me if I thought this kind of dress was sexy, I said they are just young and expressing themselves, he then said that he found it more sexy when all the body was not on display, then you will want to know more, meaning things are best left to the imagination. He was looking in disbelief not admiration. I wonder sometimes who is the eldest of us;)
 

missmetal

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I'm thinking your in your early 40..you don't have to answer that. I was just curious why you decided to have children. I'm not sure if you have any now so this is why I'm asking. Women in the 40 usually don't want any more. I don't when it comes down to it, mind you, I have older and younger children so been parenting for a long time. I do have this instinct that wants another one. Maybe you can give me more insight
No just turned 39 and no kids yet. Was not in any meaningful relationship for babies earlier on or even with first hubby it never felt right even though I was planning for it. Something just told me not to. Lucky I listened to my instincts. I think I am more ready for kids now and probably more relaxed about it. If we can't have kids we will adopt. I'm glad he's open to that idea too.
 

salim

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No just turned 39 and no kids yet. Was not in any meaningful relationship for babies earlier on or even with first hubby it never felt right even though I was planning for it. Something just told me not to. Lucky I listened to my instincts. I think I am more ready for kids now and probably more relaxed about it. If we can't have kids we will adopt. I'm glad he's open to that idea too.
I agree with you Miss , you still younger and you can have kids or as you said you can adopt ( final solution) , if you fill ready for this step do it and good luck:)
 

Essem

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Thank you for you story, it help me lots, I will marry a Tunisian Man soon, he is 21 and I am 43.
Congratulations Onelove.

Did you meet in Tunisia? Have you spent lots of time with him?

Do you find that you have lots in common or is it a case of opposites attract?
 

Trulymadlydeeply

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I'm sorry but I fail to see what you would have in common? Have you planned the wedding already, where do you plan on living afterwards? Do you have children of your own, only answer what you want to...:)
 

missmetal

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Even though I consider myself young at heart and even people who don't know me always think I'm a student or late 20's. as much as I love hubby and live our life, the maturity difference is so apparent. I don't want to judge anyone's choices, but that is a big age difference and I am also curious about what you have in common? I'm a metal music fan and hubby is a rap hip hop fan and I feel so old with some if the dreadful music he liked. It's not enough to separate us but its really obvious. Even in his dress, he's such a fashion victim! Lol. But then again I guess there could be men my age who are also fashion victims. Lol
 

Jane BM

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Even though I consider myself young at heart and even people who don't know me always think I'm a student or late 20's. as much as I love hubby and live our life, the maturity difference is so apparent. I don't want to judge anyone's choices, but that is a big age difference and I am also curious about what you have in common? I'm a metal music fan and hubby is a rap hip hop fan and I feel so old with some if the dreadful music he liked. It's not enough to separate us but its really obvious. Even in his dress, he's such a fashion victim! Lol. But then again I guess there could be men my age who are also fashion victims. Lol
Ooh MM....are you sure you didn't marry my husbands secret twin...lol.

The other day he came back with some Timberland boots....that's fine, I like Timberlands...however they were the boots as opposed to the shoes, again that's fine with jeans etc...however they were WHITE!!!!! He was so happy!! Did I like them?? NO NO NO.... Told him that if he liked them that was fine, but never wear them when he was with me...lol. He looked like a 'pimp' or worse, like he played for the other side...without another word he took them back and got the tan ones...much better.

Music...I had to explain who ERIC CLAPTON was...I had to explain just how big the BEATLES were (even though they were before my time!!)..oh yeah and we had a big talk a few weeks ago about who actually was NELSON MANDELA!!! Lol. I think as well, coming from Tunisia they are also a little cocooned to what is going on in the Western world..

I mean, although he'd heard her music in Tunisia, he didn't know who Kylie was!!!
 
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