Older women married to younger Tunisian men

audri

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hi im sylvia. married to slim, 4yr now and still ok, we have been in england 2yr july we need to get visa again so we can be together perminent.thay dont make things easy do thay.you have the stress of trying for set visa,then refusal,then appeal, we won ,some dont,my friend is still trying ,and she went for the easy irish visa,plus im not rich, if you have money its not so hard going,but i had to put away every penny,slim waswaiting on at a hotel and got just about his rent and food money,so a visa to england at £300 took ages to save.on top u have flights if i was to see him,it was hard,he was refused ,we won appeal, but that draged on for 1yr, he tryfor work,as the job he was offerd went as it took so long for him to get the appeal,no jobs in manchester so my friend said come to gatwick lots of work, she gave slim a room,he got jobs with an agancy i packed up and joined him,we now have a flat privet rented as slim cant get any public funds for 2 yr. so i have to keep him iff he dont have work,so the council take council tax but we cant get house .thay give all to e u persons that can walk in the country get help as soon as thay arive. we had to fight from day one ,now we are saveing the 1000 for the visa to stay . we are together and happy slim is 28 i am 60. we dont worry about age . what is age ? its the stress of life that makes problems .and the immigration people dont help
Thank you darling for saying you also don't worry about age ..age to my husband and I is just a number it is what comes from the heart and soul ..bless you both
 

Asiah

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christine j, why not at least go there first and see how he is and how you are together, go home and tell friends and family how much fun you had and how nice he is, then next time you go back start making plans for a wedding. why rush into something you may not be sure of?! i think people would be more accepting and you won't have such a hard time from people if you meet him first. if you rush straight into marriage, you will get so many warnings from people about him just wanting a visa, especially with the big age gap! i find it really strange to plan a wedding to someone you have never seen face to face before. same goes for arranged marriages. its not the notion of meeting online, i met mine online also, 3 years ago and we havent married yet. but why rush into something?! if you plan a marriage when you get over there you cannot change your mind if you dont like the country or the culture or the style of wedding or him or his family or something. you will effectively be forced into doing it as you will feel guilty to back out after all the preparations! why not just go there for a week on holiday spend some time with him, then go home and think about this relationship, is it what you really want? are you prepared to go through all this? then plan to go back again and make wedding plans. or why not even enjoy the constant holidays for a year or so and the excitement of a new relationship and get to know each other more, the habits, the favourite foods, the way he is with his family and friends, how he treats people, how he talks, etc etc then get married?! but if you feel its right then go for it, but in my opinion why not just go there once or twice before marriage to get to know him more. you may know him online but believe me you will get to know him 100 times more when you spend time with him. when i look back to december 2007 when me and my now fiancé first met in the airport, he feels like a stranger compared to how close i am with him now after 8 visits to him!
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Asiah

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Hello everyone , call me Asiah , been reading this forum for two weeks now and learnt a lot of things .Christine , I agree with your advise to the lady . I will do same as I planned to go visit Tunisia after the global pandemic ends and go meet my friend . Thanks for the great advise . True age difference is not a problem when teo people love each other . Be happy and go see the other side of the world , meet people in real life . See the culture and experience it with the locals . Experience it for yourself and see what Tunisia is all about .Have a great day everyone .Enjoyed reading all postings either positive or negatives . We are all entitled in our own views and opinions . Goodluck to everyone ,Stay safe
 

Asiah

New Member
Hello everyone , call me Asiah , been reading this forum for two weeks now and learnt a lot of things .Christine , I agree with your advise to the lady . I will do same as I planned to go visit Tunisia after the global pandemic ends and go meet my friend . Thanks for the great advise . True age difference is not a problem when teo people love each other . Be happy and go see the other side of the world , meet people in real life . See the culture and experience it with the locals . Experience it for yourself and see what Tunisia is all about .Have a great day everyone .Enjoyed reading all postings either positive or negatives . We are all entitled in our own views and opinions . Goodluck to everyone ,Stay safe
To sianperkins not christine , sorry
 
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