So what do they define as sufficient evidence of a relationship? My boyfriend and I chat on MSN, we text each other daily, we speak on the phone a couple of times a week. I'm tied to how often I can get over to Tunisia because of a). work (I only get 4 weeks' holiday a year); b). my 7 year old from a previous relationship; and c). the cost, although I fully support myself financially here and have a full time job and therefore even if he could not get a job here straight away, this would not be a problem.
the LAW states that you must have MET BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED, other than that in the UK, other than certain family memebrs to whom you cannot be married ~ marriage tends to "show" a relationship.
sufficient evidence of a relationship ~ what they are REALLY looking for is not the frequency of face to face contact, as that is bound by time ~ as you say you only get 4 weeks hol per annum so you can't see your guy m-for more than that without taking unpaid leave,
but that BOTH parties are equally committed to the relationship ~
its usually fairly obvious that the spouse sponsor is committed, they have stumped up the cash, the paperwork and are declaring they will support the person for ~ well it could be any length of time, as jobs are not so easy to get, but until ILR lets say, so the sponsor is declaring they will support and accommodate the person for 27 months ~
as the person has a sponsor they can't look at them in relationship to the above, so they look at what else there is ~ and basically that falls into 2 areas ~ one is that in thier supporting letter they state their intent to live with you when they get to the UK, write about your relationship how they feel, and how they feel when you return to the UK, what the plans are for the future as a couple ~ that sort of thing.
the other area is CONTACT ~ again not the frequency even by fone internet or texts or LETTERS them sending you a card for your bday is always good, its "normal"????
what the ECO wants to see is that HE initiates at least SOME of the contact ~ that HE calls/writes to YOU ~
not part of your question, or aimed at you, but a thought that just crossed my mind ~ so i might as well explain it at the same time ......
sometimes people ask questions that if they read the question they are answering it themselves ~ like ~ he will "one ring" me and I then call him as I have a calling plan so its cheaper ~
what do i say on the app form what do i tell the ECO?
HE initiated the contact ~ do you see the point?
and a person having an international calling plan for cheaper calls ~ why not, makes good economic sense when you are also saving up to get married/visa/flights etc
but a letter or a card WRITEN by HIM to YOU ~ that carries a lot of weight!!! he has taken the time to go get a card, write it and post it ~
and a letter is harder for them ~ english not first language, but if they are committed to the relationship they can do it!!!
msn "speak" is not quite the same thing, although there is no real issue about internet contact ~ just show that HE initiates it, and just put a couple of examples the ECO DOES NOT want pages of fone bills or msn's!