Your right, it does need to be clarified.Hi Raindrops,
Firstly, I'd like to echo the other ladies on here in saying how sorry I am for the loss of your son. How one copes with the loss of a child I can't imagine!
I've found this thread extremely interesting, as it is fascinating hearing about everyones' different beliefs.
I personally am not religious but do believe there is some kind of power out there but I'm not sure as yet what that is! However, I am totally open to all religions and keep an open mind about all of them. Unfortunately for me I need to see some concrete evidence before I can believe in a 'god' as such. I'm not embarrased to say that and I certainly respect those that do.
Your posts in particular are very enlightning although I am a little confused by your post that states '...especially for kids growing up in a single home, they get their values and beliefs from what they watch on tv, from their peer groups and what they see others doing...'. I don't understand your quote. Could you please clarify for me? What about the single parent? Does the child not learn from them?
Kids from single parent families do definitely learn from that one parent. They learn a lot but nothing can take the role of that missing parent. I've been a single parent for 21 years. I am now raising my grandson and granddaughter (which my son had before he died). When I had my two older boys, I figured I could be both dad and mom to them. I believed I could be and do everything alone. When I had my third boy (he is now 12) I changed my thinking over time, I've come to realize that no matter how hard I try to be both parents, I can only teach my kids what I have learned. I can only teach them on a mother's perspective. I can't rough house like a dad can, this actually teaches boys a lot of things. A boy and a girl take away certain things from each parent. Each parent brings their own dynamics of teaching. Without having a dad (in my case) the boys will learn how to treat a women by what he sees on the media and what their peers teach him. In this case, a very good role model needs to be placed in their lives, so they can learn and even this is sometimes not enough. Role models unless they are a family member come and go into once live. The same for a girl. A dad will teach her how a good man should treat her. This is if the dad is a good, loving and caring father. In a single parent home, a child will learn the things he has to learn, that the mother can't teach, through media, peers and what other people do as one parent can't teach all things to her/his child.
Han, in my opinion, I believe that God sends us Angels at a time that we need one. I think you had an encounter with one that day. I bet your live from that day forward, even if it was only for a bit, was changed. As you said, it came at a time when you needed someone to agree with you and even though we may not believe in God, he still reveals himself in many ways to us. Because even before we were born, he knew us and hopes that one day we will come to know who he truly is. What a wonderful experience you had. Thank you for sharing.