I'm from the US and have been talking to my boyfriend for 4 months and it's a crazy story but we met playing UNO during the pandemic. Eventually he changed his name so I could find him. Up until today things have been amazing. We talk everyday and video call often. He's kind and caring. I've planned to go out there in August since it's much easier for me to go there than him come here. We have so many amazing places we're planning on visiting. He's paying for everything while I'm there. Says I'm his guest and I believe it. I most definitely will go there with enough money to take care of myself if this is all bullshit. I'm currently going through a divorce and it's not final yet. My facebook has my married name and he mentioned today that he doesn't understand why I'm still using my ex's family name. WOW! He's right. I didn't really think about it. My plan was once the divorce was final it would be like a rite of passage for me but now that I'm beginning a relationship with him this makes sense. So, while I was changing my name on facebook I realized my relationship status was set to single. I asked him if he wanted me to change this. He told me yes he wants the world to know we're together, as do I. I explained if I did this it would post on his page and want to make sure that's OK with him. I know there are SO many cultural differences we have to face and thought this might be one of them. He did explain his page was public and he has over 4,000 friends and that he didn't want them messaging me if we shared it. He said most of them he didn't know. It told him not to worry about it. My love for him was strong and I did my research and nothing they could say would get in the way. We did it an my family and friends and some of his started commenting. I felt proud of my next step in my journey. Then I clicked to see my best friends comment and our pictures were gone and so was his name. He deleted it! He actually marked the post as private. I felt like an idiot. I'm getting messages from my family and friends. When he called I was crying. Told him what he did hurt me. What am I missing!?! Is it other woman? Is it me being American? I haven't had ONE red flag until tonight. He tried to fix it and add it back but I removed my relationship status. I know the red flags are Visa's and Money. I really have a feeling in my gut it's cultural. Please help. I don't want to walk away and miss out on the amazing man I thought I had. Thanks!
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