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Aladin888

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Kris

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If you are in a town or city make an appointment at the job centre and they will help you get an ni number and start.looking for a job.

Also search for Tunsians united and friends on Facebook as there are Tunisian all over uk.

Don't let yourself be a prisoner get registered and get a job asap and then at least you can have some money before you leave if you have to.
 

Kris

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Hello, it's me again.. sorry to ask too much but I am really in a bad situation ... because I am living in a small town it's very hard to get job specially I don't drive .. but my enquiry is if my wife got taken to e rehabilation place. And i proof that she is not stable mentally and being aggressive, can that facilitate for me applying for DVILR domestic violence ILR, and what kind of proof that I have to show.. thank you in advance
Your entering the area of specialist advice I know there is dispensation for victims of domestic abuse.

The level of evidence required and your specific situation will require expert advice.

Here are some links to more information there are a number of charities and organisations who help victims such as yourself.

 

Selmi

Active Member
#5
You could take a job and you and your wife could claim universal credit which tops up your salary.. in some case’s you end up better off.
Contact HMRC and they will update you, at least you will have some form of income to live Day to day.
 

Selmi

Active Member
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Hello thank you for your answer, I am not sure if i am entitled to universal credit as I am on spouse visa and have been in UK just 4 months, it means i am still dependent and I don't have access to public funds. If anyone confirm what I said is true , or I can claim universal credit
Hi, if you can’t receive this then i’am sure your wife can but it will be based on your income ?still contact them for their advice, it’s worth a try.
Do you have a national insurance number yet ? If not contact your local job centre who will make an appointment for you, whilst you are there you can ask many questions.. alternatively contact your local citizen advice
bureau, some are situation in your library.
Good luck
 

Selmi

Active Member
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Hello, yes I have national insurance number and I got a job offer with good salary, but my main problem always with my wife, she doesn't want me to work to not affect her benefits, I can't work skilled jobs with high income .. my problem is not the job or the income, she wants me to leave the house because we are not compatible which is a reason of someone just thinks that we are toys when you fed up send them back to the shop ... in the other hand her brothers interfering by telling her send him home, because I was looking for a job 3 months so they fed up from me. Her son threatening to come and smash my face because I am Muslim...
Do you think there's someone in this planet can live in this conditions. I feel like I am in the army I eat in time and certain food I can't walk in the house in certain time, if someone call her I have to go out .... etc
Seems your in a real catch 22 situation however, I really would get yourself a job and once you have enough money find yourself somewhere else to live if only for your own safety. Just go out there and do it, it’s not going to effect her benefits until you get paid, by that time you hopefully will of found some thing if only temporary.
At least you will be out of her way each day !!
Regarding your ILR, I doubt your wife will put her name to it if she’s treating you in this way.
So by moving and working and putting the bills in your name shouldn’t be a problem, just inform the relevant department of your change of circumstances and when your ready apply for it.
You cannot continue to be used in this way by her or anyone else ill or not ill..
Please be strong..
 

Selmi

Active Member
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Thank you again Selmi, I didn't mention to you that I went to my GP and explained the stress that I am in, it's a huge changment in my life, to the worst sure, he called domestic violence team to help me as he found that my blood sugar in dangerous level as I don't eat properly, and I managed to talk to an immigration solicitor called Burton and Burton in Nottingham they said that I have a good chance to get my DVILR in domestic violence ground without charging me as i am considered as destitute. So all the process will be free but the case is they will stop my spouse visa and give me probationary period 3 months with access to public fund and they will submit my case to home office then i have to wait either I get my ILR or I don't know the other options which i want to know if any other members in the forum can shed some light or confirm if that solicitor is good choice for my case or not

Thanks in advance
To be fair you certainly have covered all avenues and although I cannot tell you what to do, I certainly would go with the advice from the solicitor what have you got to lose ?
You appear to have no alternative? You can then move foward and get your life back on track.
Sorry to hear of your ill health too hopefully you will get the right medication to control this.
Kind regards.
 

Flip Flop

New Member
#9
What a tragic situation, Aladin.
I do feel a little confused. Did you go to England as a carer for your wife? Did you not discuss employment with her before you moved to England ?
 

Polly1972

Member
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I have been reading your story, how awful for you. To wait so long to be together and it’s all gone terribly wrong.
 

Polly1972

Member
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#Flip flop# I didn't come as a carer I came on spouse visa as a husband and my wife was ok all the period that she was with me in my country ( a whole year) her family turned her against me as I couldn't find a job for 3 months then I got diabetes so they told her to send me home in addition to her mental condition everything gone wrong.
#polly# that's my fate.
I’m sure it’s not your fate. Don’t be so defeated. There is always a resolution.

I came to this site to learn as my sister wanted to marry a Tunisian man and I wanted to know more about the country and culture. We were all shocked when she agreed to marry a younger man. So I understand why your wife’s family may not have welcomed you so warmly. We too were very concerned for her and afraid of his intentions.

You seem like a genuine man, but your wife’s illness may mean that you won’t find the life you hoped for.
 

Flip Flop

New Member
#12
It’s a big mess, Aladin.
What will you do now?
 

Polly1972

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I hope one of her brothers come to talk to me, i asked them to visit me and know me than they can judge me ... the answer was "you're Muslim we don't like you, dont waste our time"
I’m very sorry to hear this. I’m afraid bigotry is present in all countries. Based on fear or lack of understanding. We were never concerned that my sister wanted to marry a Muslim man, just that we were informed that it is not really acceptable to marry an older woman who has a child. So as you can imagine we wanted to make sure his intensions were real.
 

Flip Flop

New Member
#14
going down the domestic violence route, I think it is my right after I lost my life in my home to be next my wife which make me loose my life here too
Could you not return to Tunisia? You will receive support from your family.
Did your wife hit you?
 

Flip Flop

New Member
#15
I will try domestic violence route then I'll go home as I lost my job there and everything when i decided to come here
This is such a shame. Did you sell your house in Tunisia? What was your job? If it was a skilled job, you might be able to get it back. Did you work for them for a long time?
 

Polly1972

Member
#16
Sure it's your right to protect your sister and that is the normal thing to do .. at least you didn't judge him . But I was judged since I was in my country let alone now between them and they still playing with the life of their sister.
It sounds to me that your wife may have changed her mind. Perhaps now you live together here she is no longer happy? Perhaps the stress has made her feel unwell. I’m sure your family are worried about you and want you to go home. Maybe then her family will step in and help her. It seems your life is miserable here and you both made a wrong choice. It’s very sad since you were together in Tunisia and were happy there. Maybe you can persuade her to return there with you?
 
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Aladin888

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It sounds to me that your wife may have changed her mind. Perhaps now you live together here she is no longer happy? Perhaps the stress has made her feel unwell. I’m sure your family are worried about you and want you to go home. Maybe then her family will step in and help her. It seems your life is miserable here and you both made a wrong choice. It’s very sad since you were together in Tunisia and were happy there. Maybe you can persuade her to return there with you?
I tried to take her back with me as they don't look after her here but I am the devil now . That s how she see me at least
 

Flip Flop

New Member
#18
To be honest she didn't hit me but controlling behaviours, without food all the day with my diabetes and banning me from working
At least you are not physically wounded then, besides your poor heart being broken.
Have you been prescribed adequate insulin?
 

Polly1972

Member
#19
Thanks Chrissie. What shall I do. It was a mistake to trust completely
Chrissy sounds a kindhearted woman. I too hate to think you came to the UK and felt unwelcome. We are known for being friendly and kind. I’m so sorry you didn’t feel this way. I can’t imagine after this experience why you would want to stay. Life is tough here alone, if you don’t have a profession or a good salary. Rent is very high. Living costs are much more expensive. Even if you left her how could you afford to live?
 

Flip Flop

New Member
#20
Yes at least here in the UK I inject myself 2 types of insulin twice a day but I don't think I will offer money for that in tunisia
I don’t understand, forgive me. What do you mean you will not offer money for insulin in Tunisia?
 
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