just to give you an update- after many discussions with my husband and with myself(!) I realsied I cannot go back into this marriage and know it won't happen again. I have made the very difficult decision to end it now. It was not an easy choice I have to say as I really want to believe he will change and won't do it again- but I am not sure I can take that risk. Thank you all for your help and support on this x x x
I am sure you have made the best decision hard tho it is..as has already been said if that is his reaction to anything that he finds difficult or doesnt like it will always be his reaction, best to walk away now than end up a human punchbag afraid to speak or move for fear of a backlash.
good luck x